For me it depends on what exactly happened between me and the Dom, and how soon afterwards I go home to my hubby. But in the past, it’s made me actually more assertive and more dominant over my hubby. It’s strange how that all works. I’ve very switchy like that.
I crave both, at different times. For most of my sexual life, I’ve been extremely submissive. Mostly to black men. Most black men are naturally dominant and rather possessive, some that I’ve known extremely so… so that just kind of works.
Then when I met my husband… started dating him… and married him… something changed. For one thing, I never in a million years thought I would ever marry a white man, particularly one with a small penis. My husband is rather dominant and masculine, but more so in his business life. In the bedroom he’s not so much.
Over time… and a lot of this had to do with his having a smallish endowment… I found myself becoming more and more dominant with him. Sort of teasing him for not being able to please me with “that little thing”. But loving him anyway because he’s so incredibly gifted as far as pleasing a woman with his mouth and tongue.
I used to tease him that I married him for his tongue, not his penis.
Then when I discovered FemDom, things went to a whole other level.
I don’t really have a Dom right now. I have in the past, but not now. I’d love to meet one, but it’s not easy meeting the right person for that. I have a profile on alt, on AFF, and on Fetlife… have met a few men, had a few experiences, but so far nothing’s really clicked beyond that.
I have Johnny… who is sexually dominant… and amazing in bed… but he’s more of a Bull, not really a Dom. He fucks me really good, but he’s not really that knowledgeable about BDSM, and not really that interested in it. He would never, for example, make me present to him in all different kinds of positions, or tie me up and use and humiliate me, push my submissive & pain boundaries, or drag me across the room by the hair and whip me with a belt for mouthing off to him, or make me go pee outside all the time like my former Dom used to.