My Dominant & Submissive Side
Anonymous asked: It’s fascinating that you are sexually dominant over your husband, yet sexually submissive to your bulls. That you enjoy disciplining your husband with a leather belt, but also enjoy being disciplined and controlled by other men. How does that work?
It’s kind of complicated, but that’s just me. People into BDSM call it being a “switch”. I am totally comfortable in either role, actually.
My interest in FemDom and the Hotwife/Cuckold lifestyle came much later, after I got married.
Before that I was mostly in relationships where I was submissive and my boyfriend was dominant. That was just very natural for me. Most of my boyfriends have been black, but not all.
I’ve also been in a few… what I would call BDSM relationships where my male partner was extremely dominant and I was his submissive. And with one man in particular… when I lived in NYC… it was more of a Master/slave relationship. He was white.
I do kind of find myself craving that kind of experience sometimes, particularly when I feel like I’ve been too harsh and bitchy on my husband and feel like I deserve to be punished.
I have a profile on AFF and Alt and FetLife… one for each of my two sides. I’ve met a few dominant men in the last year, but so far nothing’s clicked beyond a date or two. It’s actually very hard to find a good Dom in my situation. My being married is a non-starter for most of them.