Spanking to Tears
To be effective, a disciplinary spanking (as opposed to a maintenance spanking) must always be to tears. It has to be both a physically painful and an emotionally memorable event for him.
For a maintenance spanking, you want to do that by hand on his bare buttocks, with him bent over your knee, like a little boy. It’s much more intimate that way. You should talk to him while you do it, explaining why it’s necessary.
But for a disciplinary spanking, you need something more serious. Something that will mark him, something that he will still feel the next day.
My favorite instrument is a leather strap. Other women prefer a paddle, or a whip, or a cane, or a hair brush. They will all hurt and mark his bottom in different ways. Because men are bigger/stronger, he should be restrained. A spanking bench is ideal, but just having him bend over and grab his ankles, or having him bend over the edge of the bed with his ass up can work. But his wrists should be restrained. If you used a flexible instrumènt, like a leather belt, or a whip, you need to be careful not to hit his balls, or you can cause permanent damage.
When I discipline my husband, I have him count the strikes. I also lecture him during the session to get across whatever points I need to communicate, what he’s done to disappoint me, my expactations of him, etc. My husband is a bit of a wimpy boy when it comes to pain. He has a very low pain tolerance. With the leather strap, he’s usually in tears by the tenth strike. The first five are to warm his ass up, and get him in the right frame of mind. Then I get serious.
My rule is that after he’s in tears… real tears… he gets five more… ten more if he’s done something particularly eggregious, such as intentionally lie to me or deliberately disobey me about something. By that time he should be sobbing like a child, tears should be streaming down his face.
Then I have little talk with him, and comfort him, and gently rub his bottom, until he starts to quiet down. Then, before I remove his restraints, I give him some quiet time… usually about 10 minutes… alone. Only then is he released. Then it’s corner time, on his knees facing the corner, for another 15 minutes. That’s when I photograph his bottom to add to my collection.
It’s extremely humiliating for a man to be reduced to tears in front of a woman, particularly when she’s the cause of it. He’ll never forget it. Do this four or five times, and you will begin to see dramatic improvements in his behavior. You’ll be amazed. After a while, just the threat of discipline is enough to correct him.