Male Masturbation Ruins Marital Intimacy
Male Masturbation Ruins Marital Intimacy
Have you been having a little difficulty getting a man caged in his chastity device where he belongs?
Men enjoy their freedom way too much to ever allow themselves to be locked in something so humiliating and restrictive. And most men are not going to just hand something as personal as that over to you in a gift wrapped box.
However, you will find that most men will actually become quite receptive to the idea of chastity, IF it will rescue him from the desperate trouble he’s in. He’s not in any trouble you say? Well, of course he isn’t. Not yet anyway. It is up to YOU to REVEAL it. After all, why exactly does he need his freedom? Whatever is he doing with himself when you are not around? When you expose your man to the true, destructive nature of his own freedom, he will not only confess everything to you, but he will plead with you to help him as well.
Though we don’t like to admit such things to ourselves, face it, that new stud you’ve been dating is fantasizing about you. And he is doing it frequently. Constant exposure to your feminine charms and then denial will only intensify his pathetic compulsion to gratify himself even more. If you’ve ever dieted, then you understand how difficult it can be to abstain from eating, say…chocolate cake for example. It’s easy enough at first, of course. But go a few days without it and it gets increasingly difficult. Finally the time comes when someone waves a piece of cake in front of you and that’s the end. All ration and reason gets abandoned. Without even realizing it sometimes, you’ve reduced your temptation to a messy plate of crumbs before you knew it. Though extremely satisfying for that minute, you eventually are left to deal with the consequences. In this case, a fat ass and feelings of shame and remorse.
This example of desire, deprivation, and then thoughtless gratification (multiplied by about a thousand) is what a male experiences when they resort to masturbation. But, unlike the cake, alleviating that arousal through masturbation is an acceptable outlet to men. There are no consequences. They will never experience the shame and remorse that you do when you eat the cake and still have to fit into a size 2. So if he enjoys self gratification so much and has no problem with it, hurray for him. Let him defile himself all he wants.
Now The art of seduction and maintaining a man’s interest is something I can’t teach you. All I can say is that if you do it properly, you will be able to entice him by dangling what he wants just inches from his reach. Never give it to him under any terms but your own. Entice him only enough to keep his interest…to make him feel like he’s slowly making progress. He will attribute the progress that you’ve allowed him to make to his own romantic and charming efforts. It is a careful balancing act, I admit. But you can get away with it, because of this outlet he has….because he can hurry home to relieve himself and then try again tomorrow. Just understand that this cycle will cause him to react in two ways. First, he will intensify his romantic efforts. The restaurants will become more expensive, the gifts will become more frequent and so on. Second, he will become accustomed to going home unsatisfied. You understand that both of these behaviors are qualities that you will eventually develop and exploit in the future. But for now the one important thing is this: He is worshiping you like a goddess and then rushes home to frantically relieve his sexual frustration.
So now you have your man rushing home to relieve himself more frequently than ever before. What is wrong with that? Men will tell you that it’s natural. They will try to compare it equally to the beautiful act of female masturbation. There’s only one problem with that. What we established earlier about men is not entirely true. It is true that they don’t have any problem with defiling themselves. But this is true only if it’s kept a secret. Only if it’s done in private. Your job is to expose him.
To those of you who understood the “Music Man’ reference in my post title, well done.
In the musical The Music Man, ‘Professor’ Harold Hill makes a living by going from town to town selling musical instruments and uniforms. He convinces the entire town of River City that the formation of a boys band is the only real way to rescue their children from the serious trouble that they’ve been getting themselves into. The normally suspicious and unwelcoming citizens of River City become giddy with pride and anticipation at the mere idea of all the excitement that the town’s marching band would bring to the community. Sounds reasonable, right? Well, in all actuality, not really. You see, there never really was any trouble in River City. Or at least there wasn’t any until Professor Hill pointed it out. Brilliant, don’t you think?
Let us review part 1, shall we? You have your new man at the mercy of an uncontrollable masturbation habit. A month or so of carefully disguised teasing has kept his interest in you and his hopes sky high. But the constant denial has left him frustrated and sexually unsatisfied. But as long as you encourage his belief that his continued efforts will earn him some kind of sexual gratification eventually, he will continue to pursue you. And he will do so vigorously. Fine dining, expensive gifts, body worship….all you need to do is sit back and enjoy the attention that he is eagerly lavishing on you. Just understand, that at the end of a satisfying night while you are sleeping soundly in your warm bed, he is crouching in a dark corner of his apartment, frantically relieving himself. Because he is a man, he doesn’t understand just how selfish and destructive this behavior is. So, like Professor Hill, it’s your job to show him. Remember, we’re revealing these problems only so we can rescue him. Only instead of selling musical instruments, we’re pushing chastity.
Difficulty rising to the occasion: Men experience a period of sexual uselessness after they orgasm. In addition to a decreased libido they literally lose their ability to perform for us sexually. This chief difference distinguishes male masturbation from that of women. This is the context in which all other aspects of masturbation should be framed. Very early in our relationship, David saw me as just another sexual conquest, I’m sure. He boldly tried pressuring me into sex twice as any other guy would do. It was amusing. Both times I sent David home frustrated, confident that he was on his way to nurse his painful erection on his own. And, of course, he behaved just as I predicted. The first time I sent him home, I invited him back later that night, claiming that I had reconsidered. Though he rushed back, he found that, much to his anguish, that he just wasn’t able to perform. The second time, it was me that paid him a surprise visit. I was only a few seconds behind him as I met up with him in his parking lot. When we made it upstairs to his place, he fumbled around with himself awkwardly trying to get himself erect. But again he just couldn’t perform. Apparently, when it came to relieving himself, he wasn’t even waiting until he got home.
A circle of self destruction: There is a believe that self stimulation can ruin the sensation of actual physical contact of another. Though this is subject to debate, women who subscribe to this, I think, are drastically underestimating themselves. There is no substitution for a real woman. But men don’t think that deeply into it. They can’t think past their next orgasm, no matter how pathetically it is obtained. You can use this shallow understanding to your advantage. On the occasions where I felt David deserved a reprieve from his masturbation ritual, I would keep him around and give him the attention that he so desperately craved. The only problem, try as hard as I might, I never seemed able to fully stimulate the poor guy to orgasm. David quickly learned not to instruct or direct me. And he definitely knew not to suggest that I was deliberately frustrating him for my own purposes ;) Instead, David, came to the only horrible conclusion that I would allow. That his frequent masturbation had somehow desensitized him to the real woman that was creating his desire in the first place. Of course, I’m sure that you can appreciate the irony of the whole situation. Hours of stimulation, unable to achieve true release…..in the end it leaves him more aroused and frustrated than ever. And really he is left with only one disturbing alternative. You can probably guess what that is. ;)
Are you starting to see the pitfalls of masturbation? I assure you, this is just the surface. Remember, when we are done, we are going to have him begging for that chastity cage.
By now there is no doubt that your man’s masturbation is spoiling your intimacy. He hasn’t had a satisfying orgasm in months and you’re pleasure has been limited to massages, baths, body worship, and oral gratification only. Every expensive dinner, every beautiful evening out, every fabulous trip that he takes you on will have the dark cloud of his sick compulsion hanging over the both of you. Everything would be perfect if only he could just control himself. Even if he won’t admit it, you will make sure that he experiences the destructive consequences of his selfishness. And eventually, he will become open to solutions. When he does, you’re answer is the same as it has been the entire relationship….the chastity device. You’ve suggested it several times in the past. You’ve heard wonderful things about it’s effectiveness. And you admit that it would please you. Convince him that chastity is the only way that your otherwise beautiful relationship can be saved. If you’ve played your cards right, you’ve used each disappointing night to lay the groundwork for just this moment. The following continues part 2 and expands on the several ways you can reveal the destructive nature of your man’s pathetic compulsion to gratify himself.
Caught red handed: Despite the obvious problems that he is creating for himself and the relationship, your man is unlikely to confess or admit that his masturbation compulsion is the cause. In fact, he may find ways to overcompensate for his failure by adopting the feeble position that masturbation is natural and healthy. Don’t let him deceive you. There is nothing natural about being a slave to the compulsion to gratify yourself in such a humiliating way. There is nothing healthy about privately fantasizing about others against their will. There is no dignity in resorting to THAT as an alternative to what they truly desire. If you want to prove my point, it’s simple. Catch him doing it! It’s really that simple to debunk any argument. You don’t have to walk in on him while he’s frantically beating himself in the supposed privacy of your downstairs bathroom. But you can wait for him to sneak off, interrupt him, and then watch him squirm. After yet another attempt to get James off, I finally gave up. He was fully aroused and unsatisfied, but there was nothing more I was willing to do. Still I invited him to spend the night. After he tossed and turned for an hour, David snuck out of the bedroom and downstairs. He had apparently hoped to finish the job himself in the privacy of my downstairs bathroom. He had assumed that I was asleep, but, of course, I was not. I knocked on the door a few minutes later. David stammered around nervously trying to explain why he felt the need to use the downstairs bathroom instead of the one connected to my room. It was strange behavior for someone doing something so natural, I thought. He, of course, had no explanation for the odd stroking noises I heard through the door either. Though I didn’t force him to admit anything, I let it be known that I was unconvinced. I feared that his selfish compulsion was destroying our intimacy and that he needed to get it under control. From then on, there was no more reason to tip toe around it. His secret shame was now exposed where I could bring it up any time I wanted.
A self-aware masturbator: We are compassionate and understanding women, but even we have our limits. Sure, despite your man’s inadequacies and embarrassment, he has more than compensated for it. Your man has obediently kept you satisfied and content in alternative ways that other women only dream of. But we have our specific needs also. And eventually a woman needs more than an oral servant. Once you’ve exposed his masturbation habit, you must use these opportunities to punctuate your disapproval of it. Directly demanding that he stop masturbating to save your sex life may be appropriate, but a sigh of disappointment at the sight of his limp cock can send a message that is just as clear. It is unlikely that any of this will curb his masturbation. But you will have planted the seed of inadequacy. And that seed will grow in his mind and eat at him like cancer. Yes, his masturbation will continue privately, but each stroke will be accompanied by feelings of shame and remorse. Or better yet, he will think twice before masturbating and try to refrain. And though he will eventually surrender to the temptation, his masturbation will be preceded by a long, difficult period of attempted abstinence, failure, and then guilt while he cleans his mess. He is a man so his desire will never subside. But now his options will seem more bleak. Like reinforcing a Pavlovian dog, you’ve made sure that (as long as he masturbates) any attempt to get sexual satisfaction from you will only end up in humiliation. And now he can’t even touch himself in the privacy of his own room without being ashamed.