Good, effective discipline is always to tears. To work, it has to be both a painful physical and memorable emotional experience for him.
Taking a belt to his ass every now and then does wonders for a man’s attitude. It motivates him to please and obey. It takes off the rough, selfish edges of his masculinity. It helps reorient his thinking from “what do I want” to “what does she need”.
But the results aren’t immediate. It can take weeks or months, depending on the man. He has to know you’re serious about disciplining him. You have to kind of break his spirit, and then rebuild it the way you want. In many ways, it’s a lot like military boot camp. They go in rough, selfish, and unruly. They come out rather docile, well-disciplined, and ready to please.
Some women choose to administer more routine maintenance spankings and less serious discipline themselves, and delegate more serious discipline to a professional dominatrix. That’s what I do. For more serious discipline I take him in to see Mistress Marlene.