FemDom Lifestyle Choices
FemDom Lifestyle Choices
As most women in relationships eventually discover, most men are chronic masturbators, particularly men with small penises. And they all lie about it. Because they know it’s wrong, and they’re ashamed.
Biologically, they can’t help it. Sexual thoughts and images stimulate their penis to erection, and their brain is prewired to masturbate. In short, they can’t keep their hands off their penis. There are very few exceptions to this, the primary one being men with bigger thicker cocks. They tend to masturbate much less then their smaller endowed brothers because they spend more of their time and sexual energy actually chasing down and fucking beautiful women rather then just fantasizing about them. One of the tells is the way they cum. Healthy male semen should be thick, white and creamy, like yogurt, sweet and sugary to the taste, and be produced in copious amounts. But the semen of a masturbator is different. Frequent male masturbation results in thin, clearish, watery, bleachy, metallic-smelling, and bitter-tasting semen, which is quite disgusting. A masturbator’s ejaculation is almost always a weak pathetic dribble… it’s very anti-climactic actually. And extremely disappointing to witness. This is in sharp contrast to the powerful explosive spurts of cum that women love to see and feel. Every woman loves the feeling of hot thick semen spurting all over their bodies. It makes them feel “connected” to the man. And they especially love that special feeling of a spurting cock inside them. It’s part of what helps emotionally bond a woman to a man. In middle-aged men, frequent masturbation also contributes to sexual performance issues such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. It can also result in a diminished sexual libido… that is, their desire to have sex with a woman… because they become so focused on self-pleasure. It’s ironic, really. They fall in love with masturbating, and almost forget what the whole point about sex is. Their penis becomes an instrument to please themselves, rather than to please a woman. Studies show that small penis men masturbate three times as much as average size penis men, and over ten times the rate of men with large cocks. This is believed, in large part, to result from their diminished sexual opportunities with attractive women because of their smallish endowment. And as all small penis men know, particularly in a college or other group or social setting, once it “gets out” that a man has a small penis, women who know or who have heard it from their friends quickly lose interest in him. Every man with a small penis knows about his sexual inadequacy, and has likely been frequently reminded of it by some of the more outspoken women among us. It’s a vicious cycle. In other words, everything else being equal… men with small dicks have a harder time attracting and keeping beautiful women, and have much less sex (both oral and intercourse) as a result, which leads to increased masturbation, which leads to foul spunky semen and sexual performance issues, which makes them even less attractive to women, which in turn leads them to masturbate even more… and so the cycle goes. These pathetic male masturbation issues have always been around, but it’s become particularly rampant in the Age of Internet Porn. We now have a situation where there are millions and millions of young men in their early 20s who are still virgins but who are accomplished experts at jacking off. Most men don’t realize that women can spot a masturbator like that from a mile away. There’s just a certain way he carries himself, or rather, how he doesn’t. It is common for men like this to marry late in life, in their late 30s and 40s. We all know that women marry men for all different kinds of reasons… love, stability, status, money, etc. But if you thought he was less than exciting sexually before you married him, just wait until after you’ve been married to him for a few years. His multiple sexual inadequacies will multiply and it will break your heart. These are the kinds of women that become extremely sexually frustrated, become depressed, and either begin to lose interest in sex… or, depending upon her innate personality, end up looking outside their marriage for sexual pleasure, end up cheating on their husbands with other men, and run the risk of divorce, family breakup, and all of the negative life-changing consequences of that whole experience. But it doesn’t have to be this way. A woman in this situation has other options. She can, if she chooses, decide to have her cake and eat it too. She can, if she’s committed, begin to change her husband’s boorish behavior and slack lazy attitude, and get what she wants and needs out of the relationship, a relationship that she has put a lot of herself into and that she doesn’t want to lose. Simply stated, male masturbation is a nasty, selfish little habit that must be broken and brought under control. This discipline and control is best exercised and administered by the woman in their life that loves them. The woman they love and trust. In their adolescence, that woman would be their mother, or perhaps a stern strict aunt or an older sister. In adulthood, it’s their wife. As most women in this predicament discover, male self-pleasure quite often comes at the expense of him sexually pleasuring his female partner, and giving her what she needs… which is absolutely unacceptable. It’s why the Hotwife Cuckold FemDom dynamic is becoming increasingly common in modern marriages today. All around us, confident women are asserting themselves and their sexuality more and more every day, and taking control of their relationships. But what they all learn is that to control the relationship, you have to control the marital penis. For these reasons, the male masturbation issue is one of the first things that must be discussed openly and honestly, and addressed in every relationship. The perfect opening for that admittedly awkward conversation is immediately after catching him in the act, or after finding evidence of it in the dirty laundry and confronting him, for example, with his secret dirty cum rag. Believe me, that’s a conversation your husband will never forget! This is where enforced male chastity, orgasm denial, and severe orgasm restriction come into play. This is why in a FemDom Relationship, locking up the marital penis… and when you think of it, that’s what it is… is more the rule than the exception. In my opinion, it’s an absolute must. No question. As the picture above illustrates, sometimes enforced male chastity and orgasm restriction aren’t enough, and corporal discipline is required. As severe as necessary. As a general matter, a strict regiment of these three important elements… combined… and applied strictly and consistently, are usually enough to “break” the habit. The question then becomes “how long does it take?” And here, the answer is “it depends.” In large part, it depends upon your implementing an effective strategy of both punishment and reward. Because he needs both. More specifically, it depends on how ashamed he is of his nasty little habit, and whether he’s ready to come to terms with it. He won’t like it, but one thing I strongly recommend is that you share your concerns about his masturbation habit with several of your close girlfriends, and that you let him know that you’ve done so. It’s important that he feel the shame of it, and part of that is knowing that others know about it. It also depends on how firm you are regarding your insistence that his selfish behavior must stop. It depends on how strictly and consistently you are keeping his penis locked up, regardless of his complaints and boyish efforts to sweet talk you out of it. It depends upon your own will power as far as severely restricting his orgasms. And it depends upon how consistent you are in subjecting him to immediate and harsh corporal discipline for violating the rules. To be blunt: you have to be willing to take a belt to his ass as often as necessary, even if it brings him to tears. And, actually, especially if it brings him to tears, because that’s when you really know that you’re starting to get through to him. To be spanked like that by a woman is extremely humiliating for a man. It’s not the kind of thing that he is ever going to accept from just any woman. But he will accept it from the woman in his life that he loves, and that he knows loves him. He needs to know that you love him. He needs to know that you’re doing this to help him. He needs to know that you believe it’s important for the relationship. He needs to know that you’re serious and that you’re not going to give up on this strict regiment after the first few difficult weeks. He needs to feel your authority. Inside every man is a naughty little boy that wants to be loved, and needs to be disciplined. Women that know that about men are light years ahead of other women as far as truly understanding man. But at the same time, all men are different. And all relationships are different. In most cases, in the beginning, I strongly recommend that you lock up his penis for at least three months, if not longer, to really get his attention. This will be hard for him, and in many ways, even harder for you. But you need to stick to it. Of course, he should not be permitted ot have any orgasms during this time. His penis should be released approximately once a week only and solely for the purpose of washing and hygiene, which you need to do yourself. He should not be permitted to touch his penis. And then afterwards, you need to immediately lock it back up. No exceptions, no excuses, no deviations. He needs to understand how serious you are about this. Try it. You’ll be amazed at the effect it will have on him. For the better. It doesn’t happen immediately, but after several weeks, you will notice him becoming more loving and attentive to your needs, more patient, and a better husband. All during this time, of course, he needs to be servicing and worshiping your pussy with his mouth and tongue at least twice a day, if not more often. You need to absolutely insist on it, which in the beginning, you may have to. But after several weeks, you’ll see that it will become almost automatic for him, and he will start to crave the smell and taste of your pussy as much as you will come to love having him make you cum that way. Him going down on you like this is important because it will help you maintain your emotional and sexual connection with him, and for him, it will ultimately become almost the totality of his sexual experience. He needs to get used to the fact that sex for him… from now on… Will mostly be oral in nature… his mouth and tongue on your cunt… without any involvement of his penis whatsoever. This needs to go on for a good long time. After that initial three month… or so… what you do after that really just depends upon his behavior. You just need to feel your way through it. Some men can be released from chastity after that initial time period, and be relied upon to follow the rules (no masturbation) on the honor system. But those men would be the exception. In most circumstances, enforced male chastity, and severe orgasm restriction, coupled with corporal discipline as needed, will need to become a more permanent part of his experience. And if not permanent, for at least a much longer period of time, to include years. How long you keep his penis locked up, and how many orgasms you permit him to have, will be up to you. He needs to know that it’s entirely up to you, that you own and control the marital penis, and that his own selfish sexual desires are irrelevant. If I had to identify the most common experience for most couples who experiment with this, it would probalby be something like this: an initial lockup period of about three months, during which time you can expect to see an absolutely miraculous and magical change in your husband’s entire demeanor and attitude, followed by a more extended period where his penis is locked up for 10 to 15 days at a time, with permission to have a satisfying orgasm during the breaks, meaning that during this second phase he’d be restricted to no more than one or two orgasms per month. That seems to be about par in most FemDom Relationships. Whether or not there is a third phase after that, where you permit his penis to be unlocked for longer periods of time, and permit him to have more satisfying orgasms, is up to you, and should depend entirely on his behavior and whether he’s giving you what you need in the relationship. I haven’t talked, in this post, about some of the other interesting aspects of this type of relationship that may wish to look into and explore… such as foot worship, ass worship, face-sitting, body modifications such as tattoos and branding and piercings, cock and ball torture, stress positions, bondage, private and public humiliation, prostate milking, and strap-on training. Of these, at a minimum, I strongly recommend that you introduce him to foot and ass worship (you can never go wrong with that!), face-sitting, prostate milking (which will help relieve his balls of the seminal pressure that tends to build up when he hasn’t been permitted to have a full release orgasm in several weeks), and most definitely, training him to take the strap-on. Frequent use of the strap-on, I think, is particularly effective in demonstrating not only your authority over him, but in reinforcing for him the fact that the dynamics of your relationship have changed. Then, there is the issue of cuckolding, which in the larger sense can be thought of as a woman’s way of making sure she gets all the cock she needs in the context of a FemDom relationship with a husband whose little penis is locked up most of the time. Not all women in FemDom relationships cuckold their husbands. Some women, for various reasons, choose not to. But increasingly, it tends to be the rule rather than the exception. It serves as an important outlet and opportunity for women to further explore their sexual fantasies and desires, and to quench and fulfill sexual needs that their husband cannot possibly hope to satisfy. If you do choose to have sex with other men, and cuckold your husband, the whole issue of cuckold angst and anxiety needs to be carefully considered and examined. The intense physical and emotional and psychological effects on a man, when his wife openly and frequently fucks other men, is an absolute gold mine of opportunity to further enhance both your and your husband’s experience. For me, it’s one of the more delicious aspects of the FemDom Hotwife Cuckold relationship dynamic. It can run the gamut from: flirting with other men in public and letting them know that you are sexually available in front of your husband; playful teasing of your husband; private and public humiliation; having him help you get ready for a date (run the bath, wash your hair, shave your legs, shave your pussy, paint your toenails, pick out your panties and your outfit, etc.); making him pay for the date with his hard-earned money; making him watch you have sex with another man (I recommend tying him to a chair!); or letting him watch, or not letting him watch as the case may be; coming home and telling him about all of the details of your evening; or denying him the opportunity to know anything about the details of your date; talked about how amazing the sex was; talking about the size of your lover’s cock compared to his; telling him how good your lover’s cum tastes; reminding him of some of his sexual inadequacies and the reasons why you fuck other men; developing a more involved and intimate sexual relationship with one or two of your favorite Bulls; reminding him that he’s always going to have to share your pussy with other men from now on; and teasing him about maybe someday going off the pill and maybe having your Bull’s baby. The possibilities are endless and limited only by your imagination. It can also include some of the more extreme and advanced aspects of FemDom… which I only recommend in the most secure of relationships… and turning him into a PussyBoy: insisting that he go down on you after you’ve been fucked by another man; making him clean you up after a date; making him lick and suck out all the cum; requiring him to service your best girlfriend’s pussy; loaning or bitching him out to one of your girlfriends and letting her fuck him with the strap-on, maybe while he licks you out; fucking him with the strap-on in front of your Bull; making him suck your Bull’s cock and turning him into a cocksucker; and perhaps, maybe, the ultimate… ordering him to offer his tight little bitch ass to your Bull.
The beautiful thing is that it’s all your choice.